How I’m Rockin’ Motherhood
with five kids and my sanity intact
I’ll be the first to admit, when I pictured becoming a wife and mother, I never quite pictured it how it turned out. Never in my wildest dreams could I have imagined having five children, almost all a year apart and being a military spouse on top of it. Funny how life has a way of working itself out.
Our family came to be in a non-traditional way. We jumped from one child to five in a 13 month period, and no, none of them are twins. My husband and I were really just falling into our “paths” in this life, we had our first born son, I was rockin’ my career as a Nurse and he, in the USCG. We spent a couple of years fixing our credit which in our younger years we did not pay the due attention to and falling into a family budget that would keep us above water as we began our new venture into parenthood.
As life would have it, just when we thought we had everything figured out, it threw us a curveball. Boy, what a curveball indeed. See, after we had our first son, we wanted him to have a sibling close in age in the worst way, it didn’t quite work out that way though. It took us years to get pregnant with our second child, it didn’t happen until our son was six years old!
And then it happened…
While I was four months pregnant with our second bundle of joy, we were up for transfer, meaning we had to move again due to my husband’s military career. During the transition, we opted to stay with family to take the pressure off and not rush into the first available home we came across. In that time, (I’ll spare you the details) we took guardianship of our niece and nephew, a 12 month old, and a 2 year old. Fast forward a month after giving birth to our beautiful daughter and we find ourselves expecting again!
After our third child was born, and we had taken in our niece and nephew, we were brought to five children. Their ages at the time were, newborn, one, two, three, and seven!
Our story may not have turned out how either of us imagined but does it ever truly go as planned? We honestly, feel blessed for having each and every one of them and wouldn’t trade it for the world!
Where am I going with this?
I was tagged in a series, #rockinmotherhood by a fellow mom blogger, Luz Tijerina-Garduno, author at Adventureswithnico.com. She is an amazing mother, attorney, and blogger. Thank you, Luz for thinking of me, it means more than you know.
The thought behind this series is for Mom’s to share 10 ways they are rocking Motherhood and hopefully inspire others. I am grateful to be a part of something that is empowering women in their parenting journeys in an age that unfortunately experiences parent shaming more often than not.
So, without further ado
10 Ways I Am Rockin’ Motherhood!
#1 I have them ALL on the SAME routine!
This one took work. A-LOT of work, at first. There were even times getting there didn’t seem possible, but I stuck with it and in the end, each and every one of them followed suit. They take their naps at the same time, they go to bed at the same time, eat and bathe at the same times. After getting past the early on battle of the wills, every child fell into the routine I set for them and came to expect it. The battles ended and I can not stress enough how much this helps keep your sanity in check. I share how I did this in this post here → A Toddler’s Daily Routine: How To Make Them Fall In Line!
#2 I encourage their creativity & interests
I try to be attentive enough to notice when they show signs of being exceptional at something in particular, no matter how big or small and embrace it with them. If any of them show an interest in something that can turn into an applicable skill for a future career or hobby, I find ways to help them grow that skill and passion.
For example, my oldest son (10), has become passionate about writing, the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree there. I found him writing short stories on his own, with drawings to depict certain scenes. He told me, “Mom, one day I will be a famous author”. So, with that in mind, I made one of his Christmas gifts a bundle of creative writing books, word ladders, a few to help with his spelling, and my favorite one of all, the Illustory craft kit where he can work through creating his own story and send in his final draft, illustrations and all and receive an actual, physical copy of his very own BOOK! We make this a part of our time alone and work through them together. I also got him his own leather bound journal for Valentines Day with a pen that has a “writer’s quote” along the side.
#3 No child left behind
With five kids, a spouse in the military, and all that pulls me in a thousand different directions on a daily basis, I make a point to spend quality time as a family and with each child individually. It can not be done every day, nor can it be scheduled, because let’s face it, life gets in the way.
Family time is honestly, things we do in our everyday lives already, be it sitting down as a family for dinner and conversation, piling up for a movie night, playing outside, or anything really that gets us to slow down and enjoy one another’s company. Our daily lives become so chaotic with every minute either filled with tasks or simply every child wanting to pull us in a million directions at once, so I try to assure not one of the kids feels they are left out or left behind. I do this by taking turns, having a day out with each one, and by day out I mean, a short trip to the store, a library, grandparents, or simply by going into a room alone with them for some one on one time to read a book, play a game, or whatever they request.
#4 I am intentional with their bookshelf
I owe credit for this one to my friend, Samantha Munoz, author of “The Intentional Bookshelf”. After reading her book, I began looking at the books that crowded my children’s little libraries and started re-evaluating what they brought to the table for them. We now select our children’s literature quite intentionally, seeking out books that will help them grow as individuals. Story time has always been a big thing in our household, but now, I feel as though I am giving them more through it. With that, we have experienced some truly engaging and surprising family discussions that I believe will stick with them for many years and help shape who they become. I recently wrote a review for her book because I enjoyed it that much, you can check it out here →“The Intentional Bookshelf” A Full and Honest Review
#5 I react compassionately
Okay, not always, I am human but, when they do something “wrong” or misbehave I don’t always react as the “mean mama”. I take a knee to be at their level and explain to them what they did wrong, explain why this was wrong, then I flip it to put them in the other’s shoes (when this fits the scenario) and ask them to tell me in their own words why they should correct this behavior. As I mentioned, this is not my reaction all the time, but it is done enough, that they know when I react poorly (let’s be honest, we all have those moments) it is because they should know better, and they will not always get off so easy. If I was that pleasant every time they did something wrong, well, they would simply take advantage of that, and act up.
#6 I follow my passions
I believe following your passions in life is key to your mental well-being. Your passion does not have to be fruitful in nature, rather, simply, something that makes you feel happy while doing it. I have always had a passion for writing and of course being a Nurse. When we jumped from 1 to 5 kids in 13 months my career as a Nurse had to be put on the back burner, but that did not stop me. I continue to follow that passion through this very blog, utilizing my knowledge from nursing to provide reliable, easy to access health information for parents.The other way I continue to follow this passion of mine is through furthering my degree online at my own “mom of 5 pace”. My doing so sets an example for my children to follow their dreams and let no bump in the road stop them.
#7 I provoke their minds
My guess is you do this as well and don’t realize you’re doing it! I will intentionally guide their thoughts through given situations with simple questions. A small what if here, how so there, and an “if you were in that situation, what would you do differently.” I want my kids to grow to be genuinely decent human beings that will consider all possibilities to a scenario before reacting critically.
#8 I dance in the rain with them
Both in the literal and figurative sense. We play, and we play hard, silly, wild, and free! (within reason) This comes in many forms but can include anything from playing basketball in the house to jumping in a pile of leaves, playing hide and seek to freeze tag, or pumping up the volume to some dance worthy music and having an impromptu dance party! I didn’t forget about the rain either, I have made it a point a time or two that when it was raining to grab every one of my kids, direct them outside, and jump in the puddles. For no other reason than to spark a smile, a freeing feeling of spontaneity and to encourage them to cut loose.
Sometimes we take for granted the experiences like so, can help foster or instill optimism in our children as they grow into adults. I wrote a letter to my kids about dancing in the rain in hopes to instill just that. You can read that letter here →“My Dearest Little One, I Want You To Dance!”
#9 I don’t hide life’s harsh realities
Though, I may sugar coat them slightly, to make the lesson age appropriate and sure I pick and choose which would benefit my child to learn about and what they have no necessity to know at their particular age. I believe given the “reality” I will expose them to, or not hide them from is a learning experience that will help them grow and become stronger and more aware. In example, stranger danger, personal/body privacy, school shootings (sadly), and so forth.
#10 I drop everything for a LOVE SONG!
No matter what I am doing, no matter how important, even with elbows deep in soapy dish water, I will drop it all to give and receive a hug, snuggle, kiss, or and I love you. After all, we’re just making our own love song with each and every moment like this.
Motherhood is the hardest job you’ll ever love!
That being said, know that not a single one of us will ever perfect it, you will never be given a set of instructions for it, and you will not receive the satisfaction of knowing that you have done it right. Parent how you see fit, experience and encourage your children how you wish and know that with all the love in your heart, you are one SIC Mama for being intentional with your children.
I would love to hear how you’re #rockingmotherhood! Let us know in the comments below!
I would like to nominate, Michal from All Things Sydney, Michele from The Domestic Realist, Stephenie from Blended Life Happy Wife, and Jalisa from Thrifty Haute Mom. See the guidelines below.
1.Thank the blogger that tagged you and link to their blog.
2.List 10 things you believe make you a good mother (this is just a guideline. It can be more or less than 10.)
3.Tag some bloggers to join in the #RockingMotherhood Tag.
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