Dearest Little One, I Want You To Dance!

A mother’s letter to her young children encourages them to develop optimism in a pessimistic world.


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My Dear Little Ones,


I am writing this letter to you as the day comes to an end and turns into night. I lay awake with thoughts of what I hope to instill in you. As your greatest mentor thus far, I hope I can raise you with morals strong enough to empower you to take on any pressure, and with values to bear the weight of the strongest tide. Most of all, an inner joy that will be unbreakable by life’s let downs and failures.


My wish for you is that you will truly believe that everything happens for a reason, and though you may not see the meaning at the moment, you will come to realize the reason is for you to grow. Without failure, my dear, you would not have any mistakes to learn from. Without let downs and heartaches, you would never grow from experience or be forced to see the light at the end of the tunnel.


If everything were to go your way, you would simply lose your way. It may sound terrible of me, my love, but I hope you experience the worst of times, only measurable by you, as your experience of them. For without experiencing the bad, how will you ever truly see the joy and beauty in the good? How will you find yourself in the best of times, and fill your heart with embracement and gratitude for having experienced it? It is my greatest belief that without knowing the bad, the good will go unnoticed.


My love, when you find yourself met with life’s harsh realities of unfairness, failure, and heartaches, it is my dream you will not take the lesson in each for granted. That you, instead, will build from each of them and find greatness in discovering new practice.


It is what it is, my dear, but you have the power for it to become what you make of it. Do not waste precious energy and time dwelling in uncertainties and what-ifs; they will not get you very far. Take the moments for what they are, experience both the good and the bad to their fullest, and move on, knowing you will survive all the wiser, having been through them.


There is nothing wrong with hoping for the best as long as you plan for the worst. Then, you will find a balanced optimism sure enough to get you through the toughest of times.


Optimism is often looked to as being naive. Though, I find great discouragement in this sentiment, as I believe the opposite to be true. When you evolve into the drowning waves of pessimism, you lose the ability to see the light. Life is full of miraculous beauty, and believe me, my dear; there is beauty in the breaking.


To have everything come crashing down, falling into a fear so great that you will never come up for air, has a way of bringing your love of life to the surface. Hanging by a thread means you are finding a reason to hang on. It is often when we find ourselves low that we can see there is only going up from there.


Realize that optimism is not the belief nothing bad will come, nor the blind thought that everything will work out. It is more so the feeling that no matter what you are faced with, no matter how unbearable, you will find your way past this temporary affliction.


You will be able to rationally and calmly work through obstacles by mapping out a plan of action and making decisions toward breaking through barriers with strength, to meet every misfortune with the confidence of your ability to overcome them.


My love, I want you to dance. In any and all difficulties, I want you to slow down, take a deep breath, and enjoy a moment of joy. Not to ignore the situation at hand; more to break away and see that you still have very much to be grateful for, as well as the courage to get through anything set in your path.


I want you to be optimistic in this pessimistic world.


When one door closes, another one opens. Give yourself a fighting chance at happiness through the faith that every struggle worth breaking for is a moment to find worth living for.


I would like nothing more than for you to dance!


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“Life isn’t about surviving the storm, it’s about how you dance in the rain.” – Regina Brett


Love you. Mean it.


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72 thoughts on “Dearest Little One, I Want You To Dance!

  1. SO beautifully written! I hope to instill the same in my daughter! And I love how you signed it ‘Love you. Mean it.’ My husband and I say that all the time! 🙂

  2. This is so beautiful! This is everything I could wish for my little one as well. This post was such a great reminder.

  3. Lovely post. I’ve been thinking hard about the traits I want my children to embody, especially after the US election, and optimism is one of them—but optimism paired with action. Also, one thing I read recently that helped me is thinking about how each negative experience or person can be a teacher: of what you don’t want to do or what you don’t want to be.

    Thanks for this, and for those beautiful images!

  4. Yupp, crying. This is so true & such a. Beautiful conviction of your love for life to show your children that when there is a will, there is a way! Thank you for sharing your heart.

  5. Beautifully written! I’ve long loved the saying “When one door closes, another one opens.” I’ve added to it: sometimes the new door is in a closet under the stairs that is hard to find, but it’s ALWAYS there. Thanks for your optimism!

  6. This brought tears to my eyes and memories of things that happened when I was younger that really did teach me a lot and helped me grow. When I was a junior in high school, 15 fellow classmates died, most from different incidents, but some in groups of 2 or 3 or even 4 at a time (all medical or car/motorcycle related. No drugs). It started in November with 1, then New Year’s Day with 4 (all riding in the same car – accident), then February with 2, separate incidents but only 2 weeks apart, and so on. I share this because I grew soooo much in such a short time. I can’t say that I am now numb to death, but I handle it a lot better than others do. Whether that is a good or bad thing, who knows, but I know it is because of those deaths.

    1. Christine, thank you so much for your kind words and for sharing such a powerful story. We certainly do grow from each experience and the beauty beneath every tragedy or hardship is the growth we gain from it. I do believe its a good thing, that you have the experience and strength to handle death as its a part of life that is very hard for us to grasp and accept but sadly necesary. Thank you again for sharing.

  7. Beautiful letter!!
    Truly brought tears to my eyes. This is something I always want my son to know. He is 20 months old, and he finds every reason in life to stand up and just start shaking his booty-I hope he never loses that little spark that makes him want to dance. Thanks for sharing <3

  8. LOVE this – such a true thing, dancing and living life to its fullest even in the most difficult will not only help get you through, but will strengthen you and shape you for the better. Thank You for this letter, this gives me a desire to write a letter to my two littles 🙂

  9. This is a really sweet message. I believe that optimism taught with a realist expectation of the worst is vital. It’s the basis of hope and as parents, our children need the teaching of it.

    And all honesty you’re open letter made me tear up. It completes all the thoughts I had for each of my children. Very well written !

  10. This is so beautifully written! It’s important to teach our kids to be optimistic and see the good in different situations no matter what! Thank you for sharing!

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